Relationship Counselling in Edinburgh or Online

Victor Greene

Edinburgh

Certified Psychotherapist, Accredited Couples Counsellor, UKCP Registered Psychotherapist.

Relationship Counselling in Edinburgh or Online for Couples & Individuals

Trust, intimacy and openness are at the heart of our closest relationships. When they become troubled, we can be deeply affected, and our health and happiness can suffer. Our sense of self-worth and identity often rests on the strength of our relationships, so we can despair when they fail.

My work as a Relationship Counsellor in Edinburgh

I have many years of experience as a psychotherapist and couples counsellor. As a private therapist, I work with couples and individuals to improve communication, develop trust and intimacy, and deepen their understanding of themselves and each other.

My work is informed by Transactional Analysis and EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy), helping clients to understand emotional patterns and reconnect safely and meaningfully.

Many of the problems experienced in forming and sustaining relationships stem from unconscious expectations inherited from our families and environments. Couples counselling can provide a space for couples to reflect on their relationship expectations, heal past hurts, and find new and more fulfilling ways of relating. I can help you along this journey either in person at my private consulting rooms or online.

My Relationship Counselling Services include:

Pre-Marital Counselling

I offer counselling to people planning to marry or enter a civil partnership, to consider the decisions they are making and tackle any difficulties they may be encountering.

Psychosexual Therapy

Many couples seek support when emotional connection and intimacy begin to fade, leaving them feeling more like flatmates than partners, or experiencing a loss of affection, sexual difficulties, or a sense of loneliness within the relationship.

Communication

Constant arguing or stonewalling, feeling “unheard” or “misunderstood”, escalating conflicts over trivial matters, difficulty expressing needs or emotions and avoidance of difficult situations

Divorce-Separation-Dissolution Counselling

I support people who are considering divorce, separation or dissolution of their civil partnership to explore their options, address their hurt and resentment, and begin to rebuild their lives.

Infidelity Counselling

Infidelity, secrecy — whether emotional, sexual, financial, or digital — and repeated disappointments can significantly erode trust within a relationship. These ruptures often arise from deeper issues such as unmet needs for validation, fear of intimacy, or communication breakdowns.

Differences in Values, Goals, or Lifestyles

Differences in values around religion, money, politics, or parenting — as well as cultural or personality differences — can create misunderstandings or tension within a relationship.

Individual Therapy

Therapy isn’t just for couples—sometimes it’s one partner who seeks support to better understand themselves and their role within the relationship. Working individually, clients can explore their own emotions, patterns, and challenges, which can improve communication, reduce conflict, and bring greater clarity to the relationship dynamic.

Individual counselling and psychotherapy also provide space to address personal issues—such as stress, anxiety, or past experiences—that may be affecting the relationship. By focusing on self-awareness and emotional resilience, one person can make meaningful changes that benefit both themselves and their partnership.

Couples Counselling

Couples counselling can enable you to overcome the challenges you are facing right now and develop the skills and understanding to manage challenges that may come along in the future.

Conflict is inevitable in relationships with people we love. How we view the conflict makes a big difference in our ability to work through relationship problems. I take a positive view of relationships, including the difficult parts. When you're in the middle of a relationship conflict, it's hard to see the difficulties as anything other than negative and heartbreaking, but don't throw in the towel! When you think it might be over, it may have just begun.

It may be that your relationship is pushing you to meet the challenge of a new and deeper way of relating. Relationship problems can be opportunities to break out of familiar but unsatisfying patterns and can lead to growth individually and as a couple. I can help you work through a range of relationship issues.

Helping You Move Forward

I will work with you to create a space in which:

You both begin to explore the issues that really matter to you.

You grow to understand the negative cycles of interraction that cause problems between you.

You learn communication skills that help you communicate what matters to you and helps your partner really hear you, perhaps for the first time.

You begin to see the bigger picture of what is going on in your relationship.

You begin to understand the differences between you in a new and potentially very positive way.

You begin to understand how working with your differences in a new way can very quickly bring back intimacy and a feeling of being connected with each other on a deep level.

You learn how to manage the powerful emotions that your relationship stirs in you.

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